I do think this book is far too extreme. I agree with that, too. I'm suprised that this book got so many 4-5 star ratings. An example would be wearing flip flops or shoes to the park. It advocates setting firm loving limits, using enforceable statements, and giving children reasonable choices. But I do not think this is the only parenting book you will ever need, nor do I agree with all of the author's opinions.
Kids never seem to scream and pound the floor when they're alone in their room, but the show goes on when they have a captive audience. Turns out, I knew very little. Do not talk to child about problem. I would never want to sound that way with my kids. I've heard this material in several settings, but I had not read the entire book before.
Then there was the whole section on money that I loved, talking about helping your children manage their own finances from a very young age. Since you're not supposed to punish your teen, I'm not exactly sure what you are supposed to do. Be that as it may, a reader may glean from these pages little helpful tidbits to hone their parenting styles and stay calm in the storm that is the teenage years, but I spent far too much time talking back to this book and being a sassy parent. It did not sound loving at all. From my experience most teens I had heard a lot about the Love and Logic method, but had never read any of the books. Provide time frames in which child may complete responsibilities. But you can control where a child eats or doesn't eat , when a child is in her or his room at night, etc.
These replace anger and lecturing. I completely disagreed with many of the principles this book teaches. But since then, the points of contention for me have continued to annoy me, therefor Jim and Foster, I bestow only 2 little stars for you. Good points: which parents will hopefully already know 1. I found as I read that I had incorporated quite a bit from this book - mostly giving kids' choices as an easy and not demanding way to get things done.
Drill them so they'll remember. That wasn't my experience as a child. Many of the learning opportunities went too far in my opinion. All shipping materials 100% recyclable. I also don't care for their religious views. Hard to do, but it makes sense. Sure they mentioned a few times that their was advice for both, and you had to do some discerning, however I would have liked that they be a little more specific, maybe dividing the book into sections for different age ranges and what was applicable for all age ranges.
You're right' kind of response. For example, the book suggests that if a two-year-old doesn't behave appropriately at dinner, the parents should deny him food until morning. Another complaint I have with Love and Logic is that there doesn't seems to be a situation where the authors feel that the natural consequence wasn't the best consequence. Especially at a such a young age - my one son is 5 yrs old and my twins are 2 yrs old. Or making a kid who has slept in and missed the school bus not only stay home for the day but stay in his room for 7-some hours because his mother is used to having him gone during the day. I am buying the book and will review it often. I think there is much to be said about the dignity and responsibility of choice.
For instance, ina demonstration, without warning the mom gave away a girl's puppy because she wasn't taking car This book encourages parents to be mean, authoritarian and bordering on abusive. The bible is not a good basis for parenting, in my opinion. Your kids will win because they'll learn responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems. This book is exactly what I needed! Many adults won't even acknowledge this. Are you trying to say you're embarrassed, or you feel put down, or you want to be boss, or you hate me, or you don't know a better way to answer? Though I wish the book had been more engagingly written and could have done without the religious overtones , I must recommend it to parents as my top pick to date for practical childrearing suggestions e. Let natural consequences happen so your teen can learn from their mistakes Things I also agree with: 1. Letting your children learn to make their own decisions and learn from the consequences is a sound principle.
At least one thing advocated by the authors is actually illegal. Which means adolescence is fairly new territory and that they are all my guinea pigs. As parents, you have only a few years to prepare your children for a world that requires responsibility and maturity for survival. Some of the examples were outright alarming. .